I have 3 kids – 2 boys and 1 toddler girl, all with lots of energy. I know when people walk into our house, or even worse, when we walk into other people’s homes, there is a ton of energy in the space we inhabit. We’re pretty used to it though. When out kids are running around our house, playing chase or fighting loudly, sometimes it doesn’t even register on my radar screen.
I have this theory that there are two types of households, those that accept (embrace even?) the chaos and those that manage it. I admit that I try to manage our chaotic energy from time to time but that strangely hasn’t worked too well for us – so accepting it turns out to be easier. However if your household is one of well-attuned managing, it’s a lot to suddenly have my brood enter your lives.
I went on vacation recently with my brother and his kids (2 girls and a baby boy). Whenever all our kids played together at their vacation condo, they all played games, drew and quietly watched TV. When all the cousins congregated at our place however, there were games of high-energy tag, jumping from bed to bed and some artwork.
My totally gender biased theory (given my sample size of people we hang out with) is the households that are girl-centric seem to be quieter. The girls I see do more artwork and play quiet games. Boy-centric households appear to have more excess energy that includes running, jumping, balls and loud voices.
Does this mean all boy-heavy households can’t manage chaos, or that girly ones aren’t as loud? Hey I’m sure there are exceptions to any rule, but it means I for one have chosen to surrender to the “alive” boy energy of our household.
What about you? What’s your take on chaos theory and gender?